Wasn't that a Saturday Night Live skit awhile back? I'll just be mouthing off today, but then, why should today be any different?
Personal Responsibility
I've been involved in Gay Drama for the last few weeks, but the final installment came last night. I got a call about 10 pm from my Very Drunken Hairdresser, saying that GaPo had turned off his electricity for lack of payment, his current apartment complex won't let him out of his lease and he can't get the $300 deposit back from the new apartment. I think I know where this is going, I've got a 3 Bedroom house and no job. Let me be clear about this: NO FREAKIN WAY. This guy is an irresponsible user, he doesn't take any responsibility for what he does, he likes to play the victim. I have enough issues in my life without taking him on. He wouldn't be a 'short term project', he'd be here forever. I want a man in my life, but I don't want the man to take up all my energy in my life. And I'd rather him to be straight.
I can't tolerate anyone who can't take control of their lives. I've had other acquaintences that have been in similar circumstances, but I've gotten them out of my life. These are people who don't make the right choices or like to play the victim. The way I look at it, I've had decisions to make in my life, and the ones I've made have allowed me to be in the situation I'm in now. (The job thing included). My Hairdresser had similar choices, but he made other decisions. Sorry. I have another friend who actually took the time with him and went over his budget and what he could do to survive, but he chose instead to ignore her suggestions and borrow money from her. He has had it rough in the last 2 years, losing his mother and his partner, his home, his car and any stability he may have had. (I'm begining to think the home and car thing weren't his partners kids being selfish, I think they had to sell all that to satisfy debt. His partner had been out of work for several years.) So what do you do? You go to Grief Counseling or some type of counseling, you see what you got and you go on. He went to the bar.
I'm just ranting because I'm trying to convince myself that I'm not a sh*t by running away from this. I can't/don't want to/shouldn't have to be involved with this. I will and have helped people in the past who have taken some effort to improve their lot. Everyone has issues, and everyone needs help once in awhile. But to not try to improve yourself and play the victim is not the right thing to do.
Thanks, I feel better.
More Drama
Since I first posted this, I got a call from My Hairdressers' (henceforth MH) preacher. Seems MH is in the hospital now, someone called 911 last night. When I talked to him the first time, he threatened to take some sleeping pills and get in the bathtub and just slide under the water. (It was hot.) He called me again last night at 11 pm, but I didn't answer the phone. He said he didn't have any money, so I knew he didn't have any pills, but he said his absent roommate had some. (He took Tylenol PM) He had wanted to come over and stay here, but I'd have to go pick him up. He was Very Drunk and I wasn't in the mood to put up with a drunk. Heartless, I know. His preacher asked me to do something about MH's dogs. As he put it, no one can help HD but HD, but the pets don't deserve that. So if anyone can take care of a Schnauzer named Gigi for a while and a blue heeler (Austrialian Cattle Dog) permenently, send me an email. And no, I don't really feel guilty (too much). I'm a Cold-Hearted B*tch, just call me the Ice Queen. Now I need to get on my broom and go the the PAWS Atlanta to talk to them.
Job Hunt
Nothing, I mean Same Old Same Old. So what can I do about this? I can become more aggressive in my search, taking names and kicking butt. I can find out about getting some more training. I can (and do) keep an open mind about what I want to do. But first.... (I am the Queen of Procrastination!)
More to come...
As things happen, I'll be posting. Thanks for taking the time to read. You're opinions are welcome but if you have to start calling me names, don't bother, I won't read them. As my Dad says 'Opinions are like a**holes, everyone has one.'
3 comments:
N, you are not a bitch, I had a similar situation earlier this year, my 2 "good friends" asked me to watch their dogs for a week, while they moved. They then gave me a ring stating they weren't coming back!?! I think they thought I would just keep the dogs, but I didn't want 2 more dogs, I felt so guilty, but I had to do what was best for me and mine (Ruben).
With any luck HD, has hit rock bottom and will realize it is time to turn things around.
Take care, L.
Nancy, I was trying to email you & AOL doesn't like me today 9it keeps saying failure). Send me an email with another address if you got one to give.
Oh girl! You do NOT need that in your life! Don't even get me STARTED on the 8 billion reasons you should run screaming. However, if you need a reminder, anytime, youo just call me.
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