I Did It
Last night, I met the E-Harmony guy for dinner. He asked me out (sort of) so that was a Real Date. So I acheived my goal of getting a date before I turned 50, just barely, but I reached it. It took me 1.5 years, but I did it. Now I can die a Happy Spinster.
The guy I had dinner with last night was the one without the car. He's a nice guy, he just seemed a bit uncomfortable and unsure of himself, kinda like a nerd. I know nerds, I work with nerds, I'm comfortable with nerds. I'm just not sure I want to date a nerd. Read on.
OnLine Dating
So maybe I'm just Making Excuses, but I've carried on 'conversations' with several men on E-Harmony, and we are at the meeting point. They are not asking. I understand they are just as scared as I am, but they simply won't ask when we can meet. I'm perfectly capable of doing that, and I have done it in the past, but come on guys, show some initiative! I had to do the initial contact and get the ball rolling on all of these, so the least they could do is ask when we can meet.
Gotta Get Over It
I know that Mr. CoWorker has me all smitten, I'm really not interested in anyone else at this time. My bad, because this guy isn't dating material, for several reasons. I've done everything I can to let him know I'm available and interested, I've given him my card with my home phone, I know he's got my cell number, I drop hints of what I'm doing, I've even asked him to join me with some friends, but won't take the bait. OK, he did invite me to go to 'church' with him last week, and he even introduced me to his friends, but he didn't invite me to the afternoon lunch he and some church buddies have. (I'm OK with that, it was a lovely day and I rode 21 miles on my bike.) He walked me to my car (!) and I did get a hug, not a 'gotta have you ' hug, but a nice, firm hug. There may be some hope, I just have to be patient. Our contracts end in June, so maybe after we aren't working together anymore.
I make a big deal out of this guy just doing 'normal' things because I have dated men who wouldn't introduce me to their friends because they weren't socially adept or were just rude, I've dated many guys who wouldn't take the time to walk me to my car, except when I was driving. I even dated a guy one time who told me the only reason to go to parties is to pick up women. So when he started going to parties without me, I broke up with him. He accused me of being selfish and wanting to control his life. Whatever.
More to come...
As things happen, I'll be posting. Thanks for taking the time to read. You're opinions are welcome but if you have to start calling me names, don't bother, I won't read them. As my Dad says 'Opinions are like a**holes, everyone has one.'
1 comment:
Don't apprear too anxious with Mr. Coworker. Men seem to like the chase a bit more than girls do. And as far as the eharmony men, you have to remember that they get many more matches than the women do. While you may get 2 or 3 guys 'introduced' to you a month they may get 15-20 women 'introduction'a week.....
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